ok here's what i need which i find hard to come by. i need reading material on how bypass regular home nat routers, software to prevent such a thing for happening, known and reported exploits for commerical home routers like soho and linksys routers.
and it's very important that all information also has a way of blocking or security against such an exploit or hole.
knowing how to do it is great, guarding against it is even better. knowing both gives me best all around security! :-)
so if anyone wants to help. just link me to some reading material. the more the merrier :-D