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What is this "MAN" Thing?

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Why is it that men think that they can control a woman's life when they aren't doing ****?  

What is that?

If I make the money and you are living on your military retirement (which doesn't cover your bills) then what makes men think that they can tell a woman what to do?

I don't understand it!  I love my man and I would never leave him (I don't think) but this is just a pet peeve with me.  What is it with men?  Why do you think that all you have to do is lay around and watch TV and hold the remote control and be fed and screwed and that's all you have to do to be the man?

Somebody stop me!
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by:Zyloch
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Because men are lazy--I would know, I am one lol
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by:Zyloch
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If you were here, you'd know that I'm yet again procrastinating...
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by:_anom_
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If you could lay around all day doing whatever you wanted and could get away with telling your spouse what to do, you would. Don't lie.

:)

Cheers
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by:_
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It's not our fault! It's in our genes (or jeans if you prefer).

One the other hand, I know of more than a few females who stay home and watch soaps and talk shows all day while hubby is out busting his butt, so that when she Does get up, she can spend the money on.... MORE SHOES!?!?!?!
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by:humeniuk
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Interesting question.  Maybe I'll give it a try . . . some day.  No time right now, though, I have a wife & kids to support.
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by:nobus
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Because they can, and you let them
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by:daleoran
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by:JK2429
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Why do women always have to control men??  If we don't do what yall say, women get pissed off.  But if we do what we wanna do (sit and watch tv), we still get yelled at.  Eitherway, lets face it, there is absolutely no way to please women.  We can't read your minds, and you can't read ours.  Don't expect us to.

Learn to work the toilet seat. If it's up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don't hear us bitching about you leaving it down.

ALL men see in only 16 colors. Peach is a fruit, not a color.

If you won't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.

If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us. We refuse to answer.

Don't cut your hair. Ever. Long hair is always more attractive than short hair. One of the big reasons guys fear getting married is that married women always cut their hair, and by then you're stuck with her.

Birthdays, Valentines¹, and anniversaries are not quests to see if we can find the perfect present yet again!

If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.

Sometimes we're not thinking about you. Live with it.

Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation, or monster trucks.

Sunday = Sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.

Shopping is not a sport, and no, we're never going to think of it that way.

When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. Really. You have enough clothes. You have too many shoes.

Crying is blackmail.

Ask for what you want. Let's be clear on this one:
Subtle hints don't work.
Strong hints don't work.
Really obvious hints don't work.
Just say it!

No, we don't know what day it is. We never will. Mark anniversaries on the calendar.

Peeing standing up is more difficult. We're bound to miss sometimes.

Most guys own three pairs of shoes. What makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?

Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.

Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do.

Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.

A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.

Foreign films are best left to foreigners. (Unless it's Bruce Lee or some war flick where it doesn't really matter what the $%#% they're saying anyway.)

Check your oil.

It is neither in your best interest nor ours to take the quiz together. No, it doesn't matter which quiz.

Anything we said six months ago is inadmissible in an argument.

All comments become null and void after seven days.

If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.

Let us ogle. We're going to look anyway; it's genetic.

You can either tell us to do something OR tell us how to do something, but not both.

Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.

If it itches, it will be scratched.

Beer is as exciting for us as handbags are for you.

If we ask what's wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like nothing's wrong. We know you're lying, but it's just not worth the hassle.

Thank you for reading this; Yes, I know if my gf reads this, I have to sleep on the couch tonight, but did you know we really don't mind that, it's like camping!
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by:dreamer007
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In UNIX, try:
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man lazy
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;)

You couldn't find his old commanding officer, could you? That might work.

From a man.
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by:woodendude
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Basically  a person, if they are the type of person(male or female) to do this, will . And will continue to do so if their partner is enabling it.
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daleoran and JK2429:    ROFLMAO!
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by:crazijoe
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<Why is it that men think that they can control a woman's life when they aren't doing ****?>

Hmm, I was about ready to say the same thing about women.
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by:salvagbf
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Slight disclaimer, I'm a Christian, so that's my slant.

It sounds like your man needs counseling.  You may also want to try some marriage counseling.  I'm not trying to say anything negative; the majority of the population needs counseling.  Regardless, from your limited description, and my limited knowledge, I'd say he's got stuff eating at him from his past (I know, we all do) and that he has no excitement in his life.  It sounds like he needs to find something to live for again, something to make him feel important and, well, worth something.  Perhaps the military used to be that for him, and now that he's retired, there's not much left.  I'm not implying that you don't make him feel important and worth something but we (men) need some adventure in our lives.

Anyway, I'd highly recommend the following book.  It answers a lot of what you seem to be asking.

Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0785268839/002-1581415-2183266?v=glance

Also, you mention that he seems to have control issues.  From the (conservative) Christian perspective, men are called (by God) to have "headship" in marriage and family matters.  Note, that DOES NOT MEAN domination! There is a big difference and many men in today's society seem to try to dominate, which is wrong.  For more on that issue you may be interested in checking out The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood at http://www.cbmw.org/

Just my 2 cents, God bless

-Bernie
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by:BDBush
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*** Why women suck:


They never know what they want.


They always end up getting everything.


They are always complaining about something.


They are always over complicating situations.


No matter what, they are always confused.


They are not the brightest of people, if you know what I mean.


They are annoying.


They always think they are too fat when they really aren't.


They are always so indecisive, they can never make up their mind.


They always complain about not finding a decent guy, but when one comes along they always say they just like him as a friend.


They worry too much about their looks. i.e. makeup, hair, clothes....etc.





*** Why men suck:


Men could not make a decision to save their life.


The only time they want to be close to a woman is when they want to get laid.


They never keep their promises (unless, of course, they get laid)


They can't tell time, even with a watch on their wrist.


The only time they buy a woman anything is if they feel guilty about something.


They're lazy as sin when it comes to working on a relationship (unless, of course, they're getting laid on a regular basis)


They cannot admit they're wrong.



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by:winkingtiger
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I clicked on this topic because I thought the "MAN" stood for Metro-Area-Network.

haha, I was way off.
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by:Sgt_Napalm
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Approximate age of Humankind is 3.6 million years, which is 3600000 years.......
approximate time of women questioning mens decisions ill be generous and give it 200 years

which means that men have been 'mainly' making decisions for pretty much most of the time

Question......

how has the human race survived?
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by:hmmm019
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i thought he meant MAN as in manual pages in linux.
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by:daleoran
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Hi there
I think this really should have been posted in the Lounge so I would recommend
delete - refund

Michael

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ditto
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by:BPLEDGER
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Actually, turn123, I've been out of the country for 2 months in Europe and did not have a chance to come to this site to check this question but that's okay.  

Barbara_M
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