From what I've seen at the 5-6 funerals I've attended, it seems there are 6 pall bearers, all men, 3 on each side.
1. can it be done with 4?
2. women not qualified?
3. are they appointed by a certain member of the family?
4. can the family ask for volunteers?
My father has 3 brothers, 2 can not walk so they have been eliminated. Then there is 76 year old brother who is hard of hearing but nothing else. Then there is me, a son, and 4 male nephews 2 of which were adopted. That gets to 6.
If the family chooses people, how to they avoid offending the ones that would like to have done it?
What if the deceased has no family?
Does the funeral provide persons from their employee list or ask for volunteers from the friends that might show up for a service?
The funeral home charges for "everything" including copies of the death certificate. No telling what they would charge to provide pall bearers.