i'm trying to setup vnc on my ubuntu server and i am failing. i just want vnc running on the server and have it require a password to sign in and i have X running on the server, so i would like to have the gui too. i did the apt-get install thing for xinetd x11vnc tightvncserver and some java thing - i forgot what it was. so when i run vnc viewer from my laptop i get
unable to connect to host: Connection refused ( 10061 )
I'm sure this is because i haven't finished setting vnc up on my server, but i don't know how to set it up. any suggestions?