How to communicate with this person?
Posted on 2012-04-01
I know someone and they are always asking how are you doing?
The correct answer is "not so good" but I always leave the can of worms closed by saying: "ok, I guess."
The "I guess" often suggest that we might discuss the cause of "I guess."
However, this person thinks and feels that religion solves all problems.
Before her husband died, I was there on many occasions when they were arguing about religion. He did not understand why she went to church 6-7 days a week. Worked in their office days, went Wednesday nights, and Sunday.
He drank alcohol and cursed.
As he got near death, with a heart rate just under 40, he needed a paced maker. Having never gone to the doctor for anything at any age, he later died of a heart attack at age 88.
I was there one day when he and his wife were heated over religion and his "lack of it" and her "excessive amount of it" (in his opinion).
He threw his hands up in the air and said, "if there is a better place, take me."
This lady is well over 80, maybe over 85.
It's impossible it seems, for me to discuss things with her because, I'm convinced if I did tell her some the things that are wrong, she'd say, "if you tried going to church sometime some of your problems might go away." I am not clear on that at all.
She has invited me to her church for Easter and a few other invitations and I declined.
When the college aged guys come around door to door, wanting to hold hands in a group of 3 (them two and me) and say a prayer or read from the Bible, I avoid them. I do not like salesmen or people trying to force me into religion.
I believe in miracles like child birth, how the globs of nothing in our bodies can do what the brain does, how the human body can do what it does, etc.
As far as going to church to solve my problems, I'm not into that.
I've always heard you can not get to Heaven by going to church every week.
So, the reverse must be true too. You do not have to go to church to get to Heaven.
is there any way to communicate with this lady?