Can one of my Facebook friends contact others without my permission?

Before getting started I’ll admit I’m naive and well, did something pretty stupid.   Early this morning a woman from a dating website contacted me and asked to communicate by Skype on my phone (which I’d never used before).  At first she was just fun and flirtatious, but soon she took off her clothes and started playing with herself.  She encouraged me to do the same, and here’s the stupid part, I did.  After a few minutes she stopped showing herself to me and played back a video of me masturbating.  She then threatened to email everyone on my FaceBook page unless I gave her money.  I immediately blocked her from Facebook, but I’m wondering if it’s possible she was able to access my all of my friends first.
GregMcKimAsked:
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Scott CSenior EngineerCommented:
Were you ever friends with her on FaceBook?  If not, then she couldn't have accessed your friends list.

Dude, seriously?

Also, blackmail is a serious offence.   You can also let her know you'll be contacting the authorities.  

What you did wasn't illegal...embarrassing? yes, Illegal no,  she can go to prison for what she is trying to do to you.
GregMcKimAuthor Commented:
yes, seriously.  I'm actually a pretty bright guy, but this is my first time using online dating and it simply didn't cross my mind anyone would do this.  of course, my mind wasn't doing the thinking.

to answer your question:  I made her a friend before we got started.  but blocked her immediately upon receiving her threat.  she sent me a screen shot of various friends names via Skype, and of course my mom was listed!

one more thing to know about me:  I hardly ever use face book and checked to find when I set it up years ago I had your posts, apps, my real email all other information set to for only me, with one exception:  my facebook email (which I didn't even know existed) is set to friends, and my birthday (not year) to friends of friends.  does any of that help me?
Scott CSenior EngineerCommented:
Probably not, with that screen shot she does indeed have the ability to send out that video.

Now that being said, as I stated what she is doing is a FEDERAL offence.  She is in violation of several FCC laws and can do hard time for extortion.

You can file a complaint here.

https://consumercomplaints.fcc.gov/hc/en-us

Embarrassing as this is, it's not the end of the world.   Everybody and I mean everybody does what you did.

You just have to know that EVERYTHING on the internet is recorded and permanent.

File the complaint against her, sent a copy of the complaint to her and ride it out.

Your mother won't disown you and your true friends will still be your friends.

Do not sent any money.  If you do, it will never end.  She will always have that to hang over your head.

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