High Memory usage for Windows Internal Database with WSUS on server 2012

How many clients does the wsus servername and what is your detection setting inGPO set to?mi.e. How often is the client configured to check for updates. Once a day is enough .
What else if anything does the system do?
Minimum memory for Windows 2012, how many products/classifications did you choose?

125 clients, checks once a day, minimal other things.  The big problem I see is the spike in the internal database and then it stays up.  I have 8GB of memory and 4 CPU's in use so I think the server is not the problem.

when does the cpu spike?
with 125 clients, you shouldn't need 4 cpu; 1 should be enough
memory usage is not unusual; anything exchange or sql related (WID is basically sql embedded) will normally use a lot of memory

If I restart the windows internal database service, then go into WSUS console and when it tries update the summary the processor goes to 1/2 used and then the memory starts to grow that is being used by the internal database..  I also have another task that is showing a steady 600+MB of memory "IIS Worker Process".  Sometimes the console will time out and allow me to "reset the node".

not unusual; my servers do the same thing
i have 110 clients and the IIS memory usage is 720mb and WID 760mb
typically when mmc says the console timed out is because of a long running process such as a cleanup wizard
i would check the application log to see if any services are stating that it isn't working properly