I'm being gaslighted; need to figure out what's been done to my computer and who the phantom administrator is...
Posted on 2017-07-16
Over the course of 5 years, my marriage has deteriorated considerably due to my spouse's extreme secretiveness (he's a quad Scorpio, for those in the know). Recently, I needed a new laptop so he purchased one at Costco for me but after much digging around, I have found that not only am I not the administrator of my own damn laptop, but there are 3 other "users" showing up that have access to a network that I am excluded from. In addition to that, everyone else belongs to a workgroup and a homegroup that I am refused access to. I can't begin to express the depth of my anger but I assure you it is off the charts.
My spouse claims complete and utter ignorance, yet makes no effort to look into it and is not even remotely concerned about the situation. Clearly, he is suspect. I don't know crap about computers but I'm not an idiot, either. I confiscated his laptop and refuse to give it back to him until I figure it out. Problem is that I'm running out of time (I've decided to move out and divorce him) but I can't give up until I get answers. It is literally killing me. Anyway, if someone - anyone - can help me identify what I'm seeing, I would be beyond grateful. I just want to move on with my life but I need closure desperately. This man is trying to alter my reality with his gaslighting, completely disregarding how damaging it is to one's psyche.
I can get a list of downloaded programs - all done over a 24-hour period - that might point the way to a more enlightened individual. Please, someone help me.
**I should also add that we have Century Link and it appears that my IP address is being used as a DMZ Host, whatever that is. I'm wondering if he is involved with Torrents, live interactive webcam situations or internet groups of some sort.