Soften a photo in Photoshop

I am trying to achieve this effect:

Target effect I am looking for
and this is me, my photo:

my raw photo
I asked a friend to show me how, and he made me this short tutorial video using Perfect Effects Plugin:

but I don't have that plug-in.

Can someone point me in the right direction to achieve a similar look on my photo?

Thank you in advance!

John S.Web DeveloperAsked:
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Instead of Photoshop, why don't you try with Lightroom (it is also Adobe product but much better for editing photo effects)
Shaun VermaakTechnical SpecialistCommented:
That is a vignette. I use my own technique but here is an alternative process

The softening is directly done to specific areas similar to

Here is photo with vignette effect

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John S.Web DeveloperAuthor Commented:
Thanks to both of you.  I appreciate the help.
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