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what interpretations can be drawn from the quote "Loneliness is your soul wanting to make friends with itself" ?

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Hello and Good Evening Everyone,

        I read a quote the other day which goes like this.  "Loneliness is your soul wanting to make friends with itself".  This quote really is eye-catching but  I am unsure what conclusions to draw from it.  That said, could someone share some thoughts regarding possible interpretations of this quote?  

        Thank you

        George
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For me it's about being able to keep your self company.  I won't focus too much on the "soul" usage, that's such a nebulous term that means many things to many people.

But what the quote makes me think about is that being lonely can be less about not having friends outside of yourself, but rather inside yourself.  If you are comfortable being alone at times, and can be your own friend, then you aren't lonely, you stay happy and engaged just by thinking things to yourself, and doing things by yourself.  You like your own company.

When that doesn't happen, and you find yourself alone and can not keep yourself company and be happy, then that is when true loneliness sets in.  External people can only go so far to prevent you from being lonely, but at it's core you have to be happy with yourself not to be lonely.

Just my thoughts...


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as said - it sounds good - but the meaning is unclear; loneliness can be interpreted as "not being happy" with the actual state - you can be lonely in a mass of people; or wanting for someones company.
so the actual thing that makes you unhappy should be looked for - and corrected if possible
but i think you can interpret it in many ways
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perhaps these verses from gospel of Mark will give you some insight to your question:
Mark 12:28-31 New International Version (NIV)
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28 One of the teachers of the law came and heard them debating. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answer, he asked him, “Of all the commandments, which is the most important?” 29 “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.[a] 30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’(b) 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[c] There is no commandment greater than these.”

(b)Leviticus 19:18 New International Version (NIV)
18 “‘Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the Lord.

my understanding is that if you do not love yourself, you cannot love others ― a very lonely situation indeed

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Hello and Good Morning Everyone,

       Thank you, everyone, for sharing your insightful thoughts regarding this question.  While I can not speak entirely from my friend's perspective, I do believe that change, good or bad, first and foremost takes place from within and works outward.  That said, I believe that loneliness is a negative by-product of the self-defeating thoughts that we give ourselves in relation to others.   Helping someone struggling with loneliness should be about targeting their self-defeating and negative thoughts and helping to change them to more self-promoting and positive thoughts.  

       George