Rebuttal or counter argument

Back in late 2019 I think it was I entered the church and while in the lobby a child approached me from the hallway. The age was 6. They walked right up to me and said "you weren't here last Sunday." I was not exactly prepared for such a thing and if it had been an adult I'd been offended. I had maybe 1-2 seconds to reply and all I could say was "I was not able to be here last week. Thank you for telling me about it."

This child is a member of a family that has to be at church each week due to the duties of one of the members. Pending an illness or out of town that family is there every week. By the way I'm not the only one who cannot attend each week.

This child's philosophy (?) has been shared with their siblings (ages 9-11-13). The older one greets me every time I see them at church or away from church. The other three walk right past me like I'm invisible. Back in September 2021 I was attending a party and I was sitting at the end of a table with the father of the 6 year old who was 8 at the time. The child came to the end of the table and stood there. Their father in Spanish said something to the child and the last word in the father's comments was my name. I think he asked his child why he did not greet me. The child responded in Spanish and their father replied again in maybe 2-3 sentences and again my name was the last word. The child picked up their hotdog plate and walked off. I talked to the father and the oldest child maybe 8 weeks later and reminded the father of September 11 and he wanted to tell me there was no problem though I believed there was by the conversation he had with his child on 9-11-21. I am not sure what my rebuttal or counter argument should be to try to solve this issue with the child. I give all 13 of the kids at church a small birthday gift with the approval of their parents. The youngest child has only said one thing to me since July 31 and that was to ask me how to set the digital watch I gave them for their birthday. The 11 year old has not spoken to me since August 2 except to thank me for the gift I gave them at their mid November birthday party which I did attend. And the 9 year old (at the time now age 10) has not spoken to me since July 31.

 I am not sure what my rebuttal or counter argument should be to try to solve this issue with the child.  

The pastor can not be trusted to help on this matter because they like to use prompting and they like to fix things and they use horrendous tricks or whatever to accomplish their goal of fixing. Prompting is to tell someone to do something that person has stopped (or don't want to do) doing because they think the promptee is hoping or expecting it. Example. In early 2021 the youngest child was hanging around the pastor at the front of the sanctuary for a couple Sundays. Then like magic a week later this child greets me at church. Two weeks later they stopped. The pastor had prompted them to do it and it failed to fix and the child went back to their desired behavior. One of my pet peeves is prompting because it's phony and not sincere and because the person (chosen as the prompter) wanted to do it.